Sunday, September 18, 2011
forgiveness is hard...but not impossible. it is really hard to forgive someone when you haven't blamed them or felt angry towards them - there is always something under all that anger. maybe it's hurt, maybe it's disappointment, frustration, or even sadness or guilt - but it's not simply anger. if we allow ourselves to feel our way through it, the conditions for healing and moving forward begin. if we stop prematurely and interrupt the process of feeling that anger, we run the risk of getting stuck & carrying a grudge.
if you find yourself carrying around a grudge, or perhaps some grudges, you may want to take some time to figure out the purpose of that grudge to become unstuck...
there is always a reason for a grudge & as humans we tend to justify being "stuck" - but most of the time, if you are honest with yourself, you will find that holding onto that grudge is useless and more hurtful to you than whoever or whatever you are begrudging. want to break through and make room for joy? feel your way through, forgive, and let your grudges go...
feels good to be free...at last.
peace & bliss,